Nurse has heart attack and describes what women feel when having one.....

NURSE'S HEART ATTACK EXPERIENCE I am an ER nurse and this is the best description of this event that I have ever heard. Please read, pay attention, and send it on! FEMALE HEART ATTACKS I was aware that female heart attacks are different, but this is the best description I've ever read. Women rarely have the same dramatic symptoms that men have ... you know, the sudden stabbing pain in the chest, the cold sweat, grabbing the chest & dropping to the floor that we see in movies. Here is the story of one woman's experience with a heart attack. I had a heart attack at about 10:30 PM with NO prior exertion, NO prior emotional trauma that one would suspect might have brought it on. I was sitting all snugly & warm on a cold evening, with my purring cat in my lap, reading an interesting story my friend had sent me, and actually thinking, 'A-A-h, this is the life, all cozy and warm in my soft, cushy Lazy Boy with my feet propped up. A moment later, I felt that awful sensation of indigestion, when you've been in a hurry and grabbed a bite of sandwich and washed it down with a dash of water, and that hurried bite seems to feel like you've swallowed a golf ball going down the esophagus in slow motion and it is most uncomfortable. You realize you shouldn't have gulped it down so fast and needed to chew it more thoroughly and this time drink a glass of water to hasten its progress down to the stomach. This was my initial sensation--the only trouble was that I hadn't taken a bite of anything since about 5:00 p.m. After it seemed to subside, the next sensation was like little squeezing motions that seemed to be racing up my SPINE (hind-sight, it was probably my aorta spasms), gaining speed as they continued racing up and under my sternum (breast bone, where one presses rhythmically when administering CPR). This fascinating process continued on into my throat and branched out into both jaws. 'AHA!! NOW I stopped puzzling about what was happening -- we all have read and/or heard about pain in the jaws being one of the signals of an MI happening, haven't we? I said aloud to myself and the cat, Dear God, I think I'm having a heart attack! I lowered the foot rest dumping the cat from my lap, started to take a step and fell on the floor instead. I thought to myself, If this is a heart attack, I shouldn't be walking into the next room where the phone is or anywhere else... but, on the other hand, if I don't, nobody will know that I need help, and if I wait any longer I may not be able to get up in a moment. I pulled myself up with the arms of the chair, walked slowly into the next room and dialed the Paramedics... I told her I thought I was having a heart attack due to the pressure building under the sternum and radiating into my jaws. I didn't feel hysterical or afraid, just stating the facts. She said she was sending the Paramedics over immediately, asked if the front door was near to me, and if so, to un-bolt the door and then lie down on the floor where they could see me when they came in. I unlocked the door and then laid down on the floor as instructed and lost consciousness, as I don't remember the medics coming in, their examination, lifting me onto a gurney or getting me into their ambulance, or hearing the call they made to St. Jude ER on the way, but I did briefly awaken when we arrived and saw that the radiologist was already there in his surgical blues and cap, helping the medics pull my stretcher out of the ambulance. He was bending over me asking questions (probably something like 'Have you taken any medications?') but I couldn't make my mind interpret what he was saying, or form an answer, and nodded off again, not waking up until the Cardiologist and partner had already threaded the teeny angiogram balloon up my femoral artery into the aorta and into my heart where they installed 2 side by side stints to hold open my right coronary artery. I know it sounds like all my thinking and actions at home must have taken at least 20-30 minutes before calling the paramedics, but actually it took perhaps 4-5 minutes before the call, and both the fire station and St Jude are only minutes away from my home, and my Cardiologist was already to go to the OR in his scrubs and get going on restarting my heart (which had stopped somewhere between my arrival and the procedure) and installing the stints. Why have I written all of this to you with so much detail? Because I want all of you who are so important in my life to know what I learned first hand. 1. Be aware that something very different is happening in your body, not the usual men's symptoms but inexplicable things happening (until my sternum and jaws got into the act). It is said that many more women than men die of their first (and last) MI because they didn't know they were having one and commonly mistake it as indigestion, take some Maalox or other anti-heartburn preparation and go to bed, hoping they'll feel better in the morning when they wake up... which doesn't happen. My female friends, your symptoms might not be exactly like mine, so I advise you to call the Paramedics if ANYTHING is unpleasantly happening that you've not felt before. It is better to have a 'false alarm' visitation than to risk your life guessing what it might be! 2. Note that I said 'Call the Paramedics.' And if you can take an aspirin. Ladies, TIME IS OF THE ESSENCE! Do NOT try to drive yourself to the ER - you are a hazard to others on the road. Do NOT have your panicked husband who will be speeding and looking anxiously at what's happening with you instead of the road. Do NOT call your doctor -- he doesn't know where you live and if it's at night you won't reach him anyway, and if it's daytime, his assistants (or answering service) will tell you to call the Paramedics. He doesn't carry the equipment in his car that you need to be saved! The Paramedics do, principally OXYGEN that you need ASAP. Your Dr will be notified later. 3. Don't assume it couldn't be a heart attack because you have a normal cholesterol count. Research has discovered that a cholesterol elevated reading is rarely the cause of an MI (unless it's unbelievably high and/or accompanied by high blood pressure). MIs are usually caused by long-term stress and inflammation in the body, which dumps all sorts of deadly hormones into your system to sludge things up in there. Pain in the jaw can wake you from a sound sleep. Let's be careful and be aware. The more we know the better chance we could survive. A cardiologist says if everyone who gets this mail sends it to 10 people, you can be sure that we'll save at least one life. *Please be a true friend and send this article to all your friends (male & female) who you care about!*

Cinnamon and honey

Cinnamon and Honey Drug companies won't like this one getting around. Facts on Honey and Cinnamon: It is found that a mix of honey and Cinnamon cures most diseases. Honey is produced in most of the countries of the world. Scientists of today also note honey as very effective medicine for all kinds of diseases. Honey can be used without side effects which is also a plus.Today's science says that even though honey is sweet, when it is taken in the right dosage as a medicine, it does not harm even diabetic patients. Researched by western scientists: HEART DISEASES: Make a paste of honey and cinnamon powder, put it on toast instead of jelly and jam and eat it regularly for breakfast. It reduces the cholesterol and could potentially save one from heart attack. Also, even if you have already had an attack studies show you could be kept miles away from the next attack. Regular use of cinnamon honey strengthens the heart beat. In America and Canada, various nursing homes have treated patients successfully and have found that as one ages the arteries and veins lose their flexibility and get clogged; honey and cinnamon revitalize the arteries and the veins. ARTHRITIS: Arthritis patients can benefit by taking one cup of hot water with two tablespoons of honey and one small teaspoon of cinnamon powder. When taken daily even chronic arthritis can be cured. In a recent research conducted at the Copenhagen University, it was found that when the doctors treated their patients with a mixture of one tablespoon Honey and half teaspoon Cinnamon powder before breakfast, they found that within a week (out of the 200 people so treated) practically 73 patients were totally relieved of pain -- and within a month, most all the patients who could not walk or move around because of arthritis now started walking without pain. BLADDER INFECTIONS: Take two tablespoons of cinnamon powder and one teaspoon of honey in a glass of lukewarm water and drink it. It destroys the germs in the bladder....who knew? CHOLESTEROL: Two tablespoons of honey and three teaspoons of Cinnamon Powder mixed in 16 ounces of tea water given to a cholesterol patient was found to reduce the level of cholesterol in the blood by 10 percent within two hours. As mentioned for arthritic patients, when taken three times a day, any chronic cholesterol-could be cured. According to information received in the said Journal, pure honey taken with food daily relieves complaints of cholesterol. COLDS: Those suffering from common or severe colds should take one tablespoon lukewarm honey with 1/4 spoon cinnamon powder daily for three days. This process will cure most chronic cough, cold, and, clear the sinuses, and it's delicious too! UPSET STOMACH: Honey taken with cinnamon powder cures stomach ache and also is said to clear stomach ulcers from its root. GAS: According to the studies done in India and Japan, it is revealed that when Honey is taken with cinnamon powder the stomach is relieved of gas. IMMUNE SYSTEM: Daily use of honey and cinnamon powder strengthens the immune system and protects the body from bacterial and viral attacks. Scientists have found that honey has various vitamins and iron in large amounts. Constant use of Honey strengthens the white blood corpuscles (where DNA is contained) to fight bacterial and viral diseases. INDIGESTION: Cinnamon powder sprinkled on two tablespoons of honey taken before food is eaten relieves acidity and digests the heaviest of meals INFLUENZA: A scientist in Spain has proved that honey contains a natural 'Ingredient' which kills the influenza germs and saves the patient from flu. LONGEVITY: Tea made with honey and cinnamon powder, when taken regularly, arrests the ravages of old age. Use four teaspoons of honey, one teaspoon of cinnamon powder, and three cups of boiling water to make a tea. Drink 1/4 cup, three to four times a day. It keeps the skin fresh and soft and arrests old age. Life spans increase and even a 100 year old will start performing the chores of a 20-year-old. RASPY OR SORE THROAT: When throat has a tickle or is raspy, take one tablespoon of honey and sip until gone. Repeat every three hours until throat is without symptoms. PIMPLES: Three tablespoons of honey and one teaspoon of cinnamon powder paste. Apply this paste on the pimples before sleeping and wash it off the next morning with warm water. When done daily for two weeks, it removes all pimples from the root. SKIN INFECTIONS:Applying honey and cinnamon powder in equal parts on the affected parts cures eczema, ringworm and all types of skin Infections. WEIGHT LOSS:Daily in the morning one half hour beforebreakfast and on an empty stomach, and at night before sleeping, drink honey and cinnamon powder boiled in one cup of water. When taken regularly, it reduces the weight of even the most obese person. Also, drinking this mixture regularly does not allow the fat to accumulate in the body even though the person may eat a high calorie diet. CANCER: Recent research in Japan and Australia has revealed that advanced cancer of the stomach and bones have been cured successfully. Patients suffering from these kinds of cancer should daily take one tablespoon of honey with one teaspoon of cinnamon powder three times a day for one month. FATIGUE: Recent studies have shown that the sugar content of honey is more helpful rather than being detrimental to the strength of the body. Senior citizens who take honey and cinnamon powder in equal parts are more alert and flexible. Dr. Milton, who has done research, says that a half tablespoon of honey taken in a glass of water and sprinkled with cinnamon powder, even when the vitality of the body starts to decrease, when taken daily after brushing and in the afternoon at about 3:00 P.M., the vitality of the body increases within a week. BAD BREATH: People of South America, gargle with one teaspoon of honey and cinnamon powder mixed in hot water first thing in the morning so their breath stays fresh throughout the day. HEARING LOSS: Daily morning and night honey and cinnamon powder, taken in equal parts restores hearing. Remember when we were kids? We had toast with real butter and cinnamon sprinkled on it!

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Making Alzheimer's only a memory

I went to the reversing alzheimers & dementia seminar (April 2012)
The main thing I got is healing through food.
Eliminate mercury fillings if you have them and as many drugs as you can
Lipitor is a thief of your memory.
Take coconut oil daily.
Yellow dye or any dyes are a no go, yellow dye is in pickles would you believe
Take vitamins daily
Test for T3 thyroid based on symptoms
Read Anne's story below and what she is now eating:
smoothies consisting of celery, parsley, carrots beets, cukes and leafy greens, pineapple, papaya, bananas. These recommendations are based on experiences from people and healers.  The information is for informational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, prevent or treat any disease. Please use my name (Cindy Miller) if you'd like if you decide get in touch with this group.

ANNE: Personal Victory

June 22 2010 After several strokes Anne 86, is placed into Hospice care. Her medical

team tells the family "Medically, there is nothing more we can do." An MRI and other scans show the loss of blood flow to the brain is causing it to shrink. Medical team predicts she has less than2 weeks to live.

Diagnosis Severe Dementia

. Anne is unable to move, feel, or sense any part of her body (imagine a 1601b bag of sand).

. She can open her eyes and mouth and she can turn her head 45 degrees.

. She doesn't recognize anyone, doesn't know where she is or what her name is.

. She sleeps 18hrs/day.

Anne's husband Paul decides she will spend her last days in the comfort of her own home, and he and their son, Rick, convert the dining room into a hospital room. Hospice supplies a hospital bed and table, oxygen generator, and Hoyer lift to move her. A 2417 caregiver is brought in to attend to her needs. The family is given the choice to feed her intravenously or through a straw, and they opt to feed her fruit and vegetable smoothies through a straw. Their thought is to keep her comfortable and perhaps give her some pleasure in tasting fresh food. They settle down to wait for her to die.

3 months later on September 29 2010. Anne is released from Hospice. It is obvious that Anne is no longer dying. She stays awake most or all of the day. Although her aphasia is still significant, she is communicating her needs enough to be able to begin participating in her own care. She knows who and where she is and she recognizes her husband and son again. It is no longer appropriate for her to remain in Hospice care.

What accounts for this turn around?  The only factor that changes in Annes care after her return to her home is nutrition. Because she has no ability to chew and can't swallow water because it is too thin, it is crucial to feed her thick liquids that reduce the risk of choking. Feeding her blended fruits and vegetables, thickened fruit and vegetable juices with lots of prunes ensures her system can evacuate Vegetables include

celery and parsley for cleansing, carrots/beet for sweetness ,cucumbers and leafy greens for alkalinity. Fruits include pineapple and papaya for digestion, bananas for some sweetness and any other fresh produce that can make these smoothies and juices tasty.

Fast forward 9 months to June 2011 . Anne is released from St. Francis Hospital's Home Cares since she now gets out of the house regularly and can go to her doctor's offices. No longer officially homebound, she gets out daily (weather permitting) for fresh air with her husband Paul. At 89, he prides himself on pushing her wheelchair around the lake where they have lived for the past 49 years as often as three times a day.

November 2011. Anne goes to church weekly and she now sleeps upstairs with Paul in the bedroom again.The photos on the reverse side of this page show Anne and Paul on her 87th birthday last Thanksgiving Day in the dining room where the hospital bed used to be.

April 2012 . Anne & Paul are celebrating their 65th Wedding Anniversary this month and Anne stands up on her own for the first time without assistance She wants to walk again on her own and, based upon her last 2l months of steady recovery, we're betting she will accomplish this goal before Paul turns 90 in August. Anne's memory continues to return, along with her sense of humor, dry wit, and perfect timing. She still drinks juices and smoothies today even though she can chew all types of food and swallows water easily.

Her hydration, from this produce as well as filtered water has kept all her systems working well. Her skin tone is clear. The number of prescriptions she takes has dropped from eight pre-Hospice to just three today.

Anne's son, Rick Panson is a nutritional microbiologist specializing in human blood analysis and a passionate student of cellular health. Live blood analysis enables clients to see and understand how their nutrition is affecting their own blood cells, digestion, hydration and immune defenses.

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An Object Lesson

An Object Lesson

Although it has ceased to be headline news, Japan's struggle to cope with a nuclear nightmare continues. Recent forecasts are that it will take many more months for the stricken power plant at Fukushima to be brought under control. Meanwhile, the cost to the Japanese economy of rebuilding homes and infrastructure destroyed by the earthquake and the resulting tsunami is now estimated at 25 trillion yen, or approximately $300 billion.

The situation in Japan has given us a sobering reminder of the dark side of technology. The misery and suffering that many ordinary Japanese people are now experiencing are an example of the potentially terrible consequences of technology gone wrong. No American who lives anywhere near a nuclear power station can have failed to wonder whether a similar catastrophe might some day befall the United States.

But it's truly an ill wind that blows nobody any good. There is much that we in the west can learn from Japan, if our minds are open to it. The Japanese people have given the world an object lesson in how to behave in the face of adversity.

Japan is a very different society from western countries, where individualism is considered a virtue and conflict.is looked upon as a healthy feature of the democratic system. Unlike Americans, the Japanese prize order and conformity and collective solutions and consensus. The result is a society in which orderliness is the norm and stoicism is admired.

The evidence of Japanese orderliness is plain to see at any time. But the depth of the Japanese character traits that underlie that orderliness are most apparent when the country is under the kind of stress which it now feels. In other countries that suffer calamities on an equivalent scale, mass violence and despair are typical reactions. The response of the Japanese to their current situation has been one of dogged determination to see it through and to accept with equanimity whatever will be necessary to overcome it.

I wish I could believe that people in the West, Americans in particular, will learn from Japan's plight and be changed by it for the better but I cannot be that optimistic. The biggest question is not whether Japan will recover from the blow it has been dealt - it certainly will - but whether we who look upon events there from afar will learn anything at all from the lesson that is now available to us.

Those who pray for Japan during its hour of need are to be commended. Better yet to pray for our own country while it has the opportunity to learn from the misfortunes of another. In the years to come, the consequences of climate change and global warming are likely to test us at least as significantly as Japan is being tested today. A day will come when we will need every ounce of national character that we can muster.
Writer: Richard Teasdale

a dog named Faith

His  first owner also did not think that he could survive and he was  thinking of 'putting him to sleep'.  But  then, his present owner, Jude Stringfellow, met him and wanted to take care of him. She  became determined to teach and train this little dog to walk by himself.  
She  named him 'Faith'.  

In  the beginning, she put Faith on a surfboard to let him feel the  movement. 
Later  she used peanut  butter on a spoon as a lure and reward for him for standing up and jumping around. 

Even the other dog at home encouraged him to walk. 
Amazingly,  only after 6 months, like a miracle,
Faith  learned to balance on his hind legs and to jump to move forward.
After  further training in the snow, he could now walk like a human  being.  

Faith  loves to walk around now. 
No  matter where he goes, he attracts people to him.  
He  is fast becoming famous on the international scene and  has  appeared on various newspapers and TV shows. 
There  is now a book entitled 'With a Little Faith' being published about  him. 
He  was even considered to appear in one of Harry Potter  movies.

His  present owner Jude Stringfellew has  given up her teaching post  and plans to take him around the world to preach that even without a perfect body, one can have a perfect soul'.  

In  life there are always undesirable things, so in order to feel better you just need to look at life from another direction.  

I  hope this message will bring fresh new ways of thinking to everyone and  that everyone will appreciate and be thankful for each beautiful  day. 

Faith  is the continual demonstration of the strength and wonder of  life. 

A small request:  All you are asked to do is keep this story circulating. 

  

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The Power of Words

Dr. Emoto's Request for Assisting Japan:

Dr. Emoto's Request for Assisting Japan:

Below is a special message from renowned Japanese
Scientist who brought attention to the power of thought/prayer
on water crystals. He has a special request for assistance
tomorrow noon...

To All People Around the World,

Please send your prayers of love and gratitude to water at
the nuclear plants in Fukushima, Japan!

By the massive earthquakes of Magnitude 9 and surreal
massive tsunamis, more than 10,000 people are still
missing...even now... It has been 16 days already since
the disaster happened. What makes it worse is that water
at the reactors of Fukushima Nuclear Plants started to
leak, and it's contaminating the ocean, air and water
molecules of the surrounding areas.

Human wisdom has not been able to do much to solve the
problem, but we are only trying to cool down the anger of
radioactive materials in the reactors by discharging water
to them.

Is there really nothing else to do?

I think there is. During over twenty year research of hado
measuring and water crystal photographic technology, I
have been witnessing that water can turn positive when
it receives pure vibration of human prayer no matter how
far away it is.

Energy formula of Albert Einstein, E=MC2 really means
that Energy = number of people and the square of people's
consciousness.

Now is the time to understand the true meaning. Let us all join
the prayer ceremony as fellow citizens of the planet earth.  

I would like to ask all people, not just in Japan, but all around
the world to please help us to find a way out the crisis of this
planet.

The prayer procedure is as follows...

Name of ceremony:
"Let's send our thoughts of love and gratitude to all water
in the nuclear plants in Fukushima"

Day and Time:
March 31st, 2011 (Thursday)
12:00 noon in each time zone
Please say the following phrase:
"The water of Fukushima Nuclear Plant, we are sorry to
make you suffer.  Please forgive us.  We thank you, and
we love you."  Please say it aloud or in your mind.

Repeat it three times as you put your hands together in
a prayer position. Please offer your sincere prayer.

THE MOURNER’S BILL OF RIGHTS

THE MOURNER’S BILL OF RIGHTS

During their presentation on Wednesday evening March 16^th, three staff members of the Family Centers offered reflections on “Living With Grief.” They emphasized that, unlike healing after breaking a bone, healing from a broken heart does not progress in a predictable pattern. Different people grieve in different ways; indeed there is no preferable way to cope with feelings of loss. People coping with loss normally have a wide range of feelings: sometimes sadness at the loss of a loved one, sometimes relief that their loved one is no longer suffering; sometimes fatigue; sometimes loneliness; sometimes anger; other times guilt. 

The guest speakers shared the “Mourner’s Bill of Rights,” coined by Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt.

1. You have the right to experience your own grief. No one else will grieve in exactly the same way as you do. So, when you turn to others for help, don’t let them tell you what you should or should not be feeling.
2. You have the right to talk about your grief. Talking about your grief will help you heal. Seek out others who will allow you to talk as much as you want, as often as you want, about your grief. If at times you don’t feel like talking, you also have the right to be silent.
3. You have the right to feel a multitude of emotions. Confusion, disorientation, fear, guilt and relief are just a few of the emotions you might feel as part of your grief journey. Others may try to tell you that feeling angry, for example is wrong. Don’t take these judgmental responses to heart. Instead, find listeners who will accept your feelings without condition.
4. You have the right to be tolerant of your physical and emotional limits.

Your feelings of loss and sadness will probably leave you feeling fatigued. Respect what your body and mind are telling you. Get daily rest. East balanced meals. And don’t allow others to push you into doing things you don’t feel ready to do. 

5.   You have the right to experience “griefbursts.” Sometimes, out of nowhere, a powerful surge of grief may overcome you. This can be frightening, but it is normal and natural. Find someone who understands and will let you talk it out.

1. You have the right to make use of ritual. The funeral ritual does more than acknowledge the death of someone loved. It helps provide you with the support of caring people. More importantly, the funeral is a way for you to mourn. If others tell you the funeral or other healing rituals such as these are silly or unnecessary, don’t listen.
2. You have the right to embrace your spirituality. Allow yourself to be around people who understand and support your religious beliefs. If you feel angry at God, find someone to talk with who won’t be critical of your feelings of hurt and abandonment.
3. You have the right to search for meaning. You may find yourself asking, “Why did he or she die? Why this way? Why now?” Some of your questions may have answers, but some may not. And watch out for the clichéd responses some people may give you. Comments like, “It was God’s will” or “Think of what you have to be thankful for” are not helpful and you do not have to accept them.
4. You have the right to treasure your memories. Memories are one of the best legacies that exist after the death of someone loved. You will always remember. Instead of ignoring your memories, find others with whom you can share them.
5. You have the right to move toward your grief and heal. Reconciling your grief will not happen quickly. Remember, grief is a process. Not an event. Be patient and tolerant with yourself and avid people who are impatient and intolerant with you. 

To the class of 2010

With the passing of another year you can take the time to think about how far you have come as students and individuals.  And, understandably you are probably wondering where you will fit in as part of our society.  You have a lot to be proud of.  I could write about all the challenges facing your generation but you know them.  The media has been filling your head with it since you were babies.  You will handle it.  It’s the progress that you have made that puts you far ahead of your predecessors in terms of attitude, acceptance and life outlook.  Commencements afford us a brief moment to examine what you have accomplished.
Your generation has earned your diploma not just because of what you learned but what you taught the rest of us.  You taught us that it is not too late to make the changes that will save our planet. As long as you are alive it’s never too late. You taught us that living in fear is NOT living.  Fear exists in all of us but it does not define us.  You thanked a veteran and you questioned war. Your generation has little use for the word “Normal”.  Normal is only useful when it pertains to health.  Your body should have a “normal” temperature of 98.6, and sure, you should have blood pressure with the “normal” range.  But that is where it ends. It is you who taught us that uniqueness makes us creative, inspired, and ultimately powerful.
 For these lessons I thank you.  And perhaps you can indulge me as I impart some lessons that I have learned.

• Maintain good credit.  One of the greatest gifts you have been given, as a child of the free world, is the ability to make positive change for yourself based on little more than your past ability to pay for the things you bought.
• Learn all you can about our country’s past and take an interest in our government. Maybe that means running for office, reading more, or just watching CSPAN every now and then.
• Use spell check
• Don’t listen to those who tell you we lost our way.
• Be generous with your time.  Giving money is nice.  It takes only seconds to write a check.  But some of my most valuable life lessons came while volunteering.
• Accept who you are.  You are the only one living your life.
• When in a meeting listen, don’t just wait for your turn to talk.  Keep in mind some of the best ideas have come from unlikely places.
• Much of our fear and ignorance comes from our parents.  Reject it. It will set you free.  But do not blame or resent your parents for that fear.  They were just doing the best they could.  You mean everything to them.

As you land that first job and begin building a career, many of you will begin to consider starting a family.  When that time comes, understand the power you have in shaping your Children’s perspective.  Teach them tolerance. Teach them to educate themselves on a subject before making snap judgments.  Let them know that God does not care whether you work on Wall Street or build walls or whether make your living turning a wrench or turning a phrase.  Let them know that nothing in the schoolyard that is relevant later on. So it does not matter if you are great at doge ball or you throw like a girl or dress like one.  Help them understand it’s not important whom you fall in love with. What is important is that you have love to give in the first place.  Love is not a zero sum, it is paradoxical in fact, because the more you give away the more you have.
So continue to astound us. Go out there and live, love, earn, make mistakes and leave this world a more, selfless and compassionate place then the one you entered.
By Stacy Hathaway

Opportunity

With high unemployment and a sluggish economy, opportunity is a word on many people’s minds.  Is it out there?  How do you get it?
 As much as we try, so little of what happens for us is due to our actions.  Our fortunes are nothing more than the sum of our talent, timing and opportunities.  Oprah Winfrey would disagree.  In a recent interview with Simon Cowell she insisted that people make their opportunities.  Oprah is wrong. (Oh yeah, I went there)  Well, mostly wrong. That is in my opinion a lazy conclusion; a mistake many people make by looking at “success stories” and work backwards.  The problem is that it discounts the nameless millions of people whom, with possibly even more talent, perseverance and hard work, have little to show for it.  By definition, these individuals are anonymous.  So we ignore them.  Then we focus on that group of individuals whom had that rare combination of perfect timing and the right talent.  But what’s worse about assuming that people are lacking success because of something they are not doing is that it places blame squarely on them.
 So what do we do with this info?  The first thing we need to stop is giving so much undeserved credibility to people who have amassed great wealth.  I like Warren Buffet, I think he is good guy and I would even go so far as to say he is something of a role model based on his philanthropic endeavors and his ability to put his staggering wealth into perspective.  I do not, however, think he has much to contribute to you and me in terms of advice on how to be a success.  Mr. Buffet was successful because he possesses a specific set of skills that worked during a specific period of time.  There is growing evidence in fact that those times have changed.  The second thing might be to place less emphasis on our own chosen path.  It’s great to have goals; actually it’s critical.  But the older I get the more I can see there is no such thing as a chosen path.  Like Yogi Berra said “When you come to a fork in the road, take it.”  Life is a series of different options. After you take that path, only you can decide that it was the wrong decision. So… don’t.  Be confident in your choices and do your best to live without regrets.  
Many years ago, in another life, it seems, I worked in sales. The company I worked for sent me to many sales seminars during the time that I worked for them.  One of these “Gurus” really had an impact on me (although not enough for me to remember his name).  Much of his advice focused on staying positive.  He said, “Folks, if I’m going down in flames I’m going’ down with a smile on my face”.  His point being, that much of life is chance so chose to be happy.  And why the heck not?
 So don’t be concerned about that big break that you are still waiting for.  A bad luck streak, like good luck, doesn’t last.  Keep waiting, working, and doing your best but if the big “it” never happens that’s OK too.
By Stacy Hathaway

The power of believing in yourself

What does it mean to have the power of believing in you? This process begins with getting to know "who you are", "what you are about", and "why you are here" to begin with. It also has to do with learning how to live your life too. Sometimes it takes many years of maturity to understand the power that is within your heart as well as going through the struggles of growing up as a person. But where do we begin this journey if we don’t understand what it takes to walk through the process of life?
The steps to recognize the power within starts in the "heart and soul" of where life is felt from the time we are raised by our families as well as the walking through the steps of our emotional and mental well-being. It’s learning to recognize the existence of how we feel and live each moment through our hardships and struggles in life. Sometimes it can be a long process to recognize over the years.
The lessons that we learn through life helps us to recognize the weaknesses of characteristics within the core of our own inner being. It also begins with learning to know and understand what its like to have faith in something that we believe in tremendously which helps us to realize the direction we will take in our daily lives.
Sometimes we lose track of going in so many directions at once and don’t know what should come first. Sometimes we don’t understand why we take so many short steps and then fumble down constantly. It’s not a pleasant experience to keep spinning the wheels of our lives in many directions until we are confused and disturbed about why life is putting us on the edge of our seats. Then we are sitting back and asking questions daily, “why am I so miserable”, "what am I doing wrong that life is throwing these “curve balls” in my direction?
There is so much to learn about life when it comes to the power of believing in yourself. My spiritual journey in life came from the hardships and losses of life that isn’t pleasant to handle. The struggles of learning about self-esteem, self-love, self-worth, trust, honor, respect, co-dependence and dysfunction and many other areas helped me to overcome and understand so much about my life. This helped my life grow so much about when I began this journey in life.
My relationship with “God” also kept me in the right direction of my life. Anytime I was at cross-roads with my life, I would continue to ask “God” daily where I should be. Even though I am 52 years old now, I am still continuing to ask questions. The spiritual journey within our precious “heart and soul” is the most powerful gift that a human can love and appreciate about themselves when the inner turmoil has passed. It’s a never ending process through the years we live our lives with the universe and how we handle the problems as they come.
By Cheryl Scheinin

Happiness

I’m not sure who coined the phrase “happiness is a choice” but choosing happiness is a  skill that is in my opinion one of the most important in life.  If you lose your job you can chose to look at the opportunity life just presented to you.  If you go through a difficult breakup (are any ever easy?) just think of how much you learned from this last relationship an how your next romance will be that much better. If only it were that easy.  The reason I use the word skill is because at its core that’s exactly what it is.  No one likes mind games, but sometimes I find that you must in a sense trick yourself to avoid the pitfalls of gloom.  So here are a few things that I do to keep myself cheerful even in the face of trials tribulations and miscellaneous adversity.

1. Start your morning with exercise while listening to happy upbeat music.  Exercise relives stress and releases endorphins that make you feel better.  The song that you listen too is equally important.  Chose something up-tempo with a positive message.  This morning DJ Stacy served up a little “Happy” by the Rolling tones.  That song never ceases to make me happy no matter how many times I hear it.
2. Plan something.  It turns out, according to research, that the anticipation of a fun event is more intense than the event itself.  Planning a vacation or a fun night with your friends several weeks in advance is a great way to put a little more spring in your step.
3. Catch some Rays.  Living here in Connecticut, the winters are long and sunny days from November to April are few and far between.  I make a point of visiting the beach or working outside on those rare days when the sun is peaking through the endless New England clouds.  Sunlight produces vitamin D and vitamin D deficiencies have been linked to depression so a few rays a day will keep the winter blues away.
4. Get a pet.  It’s widely known that people with dogs or cats live longer because time with a pet reduces stress.  I have both just to be safe.  Recent studies have shown that time spent petting your dog or cat releases chemicals that a mother’s body creates while breastfeeding.  These chemicals help a mother bond with her baby and create a somewhat euphoric feeling.
5. Avoid unnecessary negativity.  This one can be tough.  It is our civic duty to stay informed about politics and world events but the news is also filled with horror that just doesn’t pertain to anyone but those directly involved and therefore serves only to bring you down.  Where it is really tricky is when it comes to friends.  We all have that friend who is so negative about everything.  The one who can find something wrong in every situation.  I know a few, and I have no choice but to limit my time with them.  In an extreme case I have even had to disconnect completely.  Difficult, especially if you have a long past together but your survival, in a sense, depends on it.

By Stacy HathawayThe most important thing though is to remain positive no matter what.  Morn when you have to, be sad when you have to, but remember if you are still here things will get better but only if that is the energy you put out there.  Think of negative thoughts as bacteria invading your brain.   You have the power to make them go away.  Even if it means saying out loud “I will not let this get to me!”  Your survival depends on it.

If you drink milk but know

Food for thought......................Did you know 70% of cows are pregnant when they are milked? That explains some of the hormones in milk - Sandy